Will The Bullying Never End

Bullying comes in all shapes, sizes, ages, and situations...

Often those that get bullied are the ones who don't fit in to the perception someone else may have of normal. They may look weak to those that bully, may be naive...

But one thing I've learned in my years as both someone who has been bullied and seen others be bullied, is that as horrible as it  is, if you allow it to, it WILL make you stronger...

That being said, I'm 29 years old, I've been out of college for a little over 11 years, I've been out of college for a little over 5.

I've got a sweet face, and I look anywhere between 16-20 instead of my actual 29.

In middle school I was slightly bullied because my mom was a teacher, that being said, it was verbal and never physical. In high school my freshman year was bully free, I watched and defending some of my friends that were bullied for being special needs.

When I was in the 10th grade my father died of cancer and that is when I was bullied both at school and online (this was before cyber bullying even had a name.) People would message me telling me that it was my fault my dad died and if they had a kid like me they'd want to be dead too. It made no sense, but it hurt, bad. So, I was home schooled for a year and a half. My senior year wasn't too bad. Then I took a year off between high school and college.

In college I was a youth ministry major, it was me, about 4 other girls, and classes full of guys. So the guys chose to pick on me. I thought that because I was in college the bullying would stop, but no, this was worse. The thing is most of those guys didn't realize what they were even doing till I called them on it in a sermon my senior year of college. How did I do that? I preached a sermon about how everyone has a thorn in the flesh and instead of judging others for theirs we should all accept and celebrate the differences of others.

That being said, once college was over I REALLY thought the bullying was done, but the truth is, there are even some adults that bully. Just recently I bullied on social media by someone that thinks I'm a fake celiac. This time, I had so many people defending me, and I also realized that I'm stronger than I used to be. That experience in college taught me to stand up for myself instead of ignore. Ignoring works to an extent but it doesn't change how the words may make you feel. Standing up for yourself CAN change that though, because there is an amount of self-worth in defending yourself.

Another recent  situation is a young girl who thinks she's just "picking" people, there is a fine line between picking on someone lovingly and bullying them. That line can EASILY be crossed. When you pick on someone because you wish you had something they did- that is bullying. It might not be severe, it might not do damage, but it still hurts and you might be planting a seed of negativity that could grow to something as BIG as suicide. THINK about your actions, friends! Please.

Let's do our part in making sure that the bullying that feels like it will never end, does end, at least in our circles.

The Day That Movies, TV Shows and Books Change Lives.

I'm a sponge.

Not the kind of sponge that soaks up water, not the sponge you can find in a body of water.

But still, I am a sponge. This is not be confused with a chameleon. I do not become like those I'm around, camouflaging into my surroundings. I am my own person.

But watching movies and tv shows, and reading books... I soak up what I watch or read.

For an example, when I was just a child I LOVED old movies, you would find me watching movies like Heaven Can Wait (1943) with Don Ameche (He died in 93 on my birthday, I cried when I found out.) I was in love with him, even though he was 85 when he died, I knew him as the handsome and charming  Henry Van Cleve *sigh* Anyway, I'm digressing. Point is Heaven Can Wait and Chitty Chitty Bang Bang (1968)

In both Chitty Chitty and Heaven Can Wait there are different variations of "They kissed so that means they now have to get married." I didn't realize until watching both of these movies as an adult that they shaped my view on that matter, but my parents spent most of my teen years teasing me about how as a kid, whenever I watched a movie where a couple would kiss I would gasp and say "Now they have to get married!"

^A Sponge.

When I graduated college in 2010 I was very depressed by October of that year, having not found a job I started my own Jewelry business, but more than that I found this amazing show that had been canceled earlier in the year, Ugly Betty. The story of a young woman, considered ugly by the fashion world, thrust into that exact world as the assistant to a womanizer. The show is full of the ups and downs of these two people, from opposite worlds. It saved me from deep depression. I soaked up the show, learning life lessons from it, that it would take pages to write about, but that's not the point of this post. Charmed was the same way. General life lessons, and also time management lessons, they came from these shows.

Books are another thing I am a sponge about. I have four favorite books of all time that I've read tons of times each. Pride and Prejudice and Northanger Abbey by Jane Austen, The Rescue by Nicholas Sparks , and Sophie's Heart by Lori Wick. They've taught me so much about patience, kindness, naivety, and many more things.

Sometimes being a sponge is not so good. Entertainment can teach us about violence, anger, hate, especially in todays society. It's all about what we choose to surround ourselves with.

 Did anything you watched or read as a child or even adult effect you in a spongey way? (lol)

Jambo Bwana Hakuna Matata

Hello Sir, No worries.

That is what Jambo Bwana Hakuna Matata

I've seen other things that say Jambo Bwana means "Hello friend" or "Hello Mister."

But for this blog we will use "Hello Sir"

I first heard Hakuna Matata from Lion King like most children but a few years ago I was looking for different versions of the song Hakuna Matata from The Lion King. I have found a Portugese version which I love listening to. However, during that particular search that I'm speaking of I found Jambo by Boney M.

The moment I heard it, it became one of my favorite songs of all time.
Jambo Bwana Hakuna Matata 

The point of this blog is... well I'm sure you'll see soon.

As I said, one of my favorite songs, I LOVE it. My boyfriend and I often greet each other like that when we talk or see each other, just because it's fun.

Lately though I haven't been feeling so "no worries" In the midst of all the good things in life I can't help but wonder when the craps going to hit the fan. I try to not think like that. I'm happy for the first time in a very long time. I mean truly happy. I finally feel like my life is going somewhere with the publishing of my book, I've got an amazing man in my life.

However other things have been going on, the health of some of the people closest to me is declining, I recently had some gluten accidentally, I've been sick from that ever since. It's just been one thing after another and Through the whole thing Hakuna Matata has been hard to hold on to, and when I worry I worry about EVERYTHING all at once! It's like a big worry storm that wont go away until it's smacked out of me (please don't hit me, I've also had a migraine coming and going for a week now)

The point is, I want the people in my life who are sick to feel better. I want to get back to my writing, and I would like to see the boyfriend. *sigh*

I guess you and I both have to keep remembering Jambo Bwana Hakuna Matata. Have a good time, enjoy the summer (or whats left of it since schools are back in session and it's been crazy hot... falls almost hear though!)

Ta Ta! lol