So I was slacking a little on the Motivation March stuff this month. This month has been a crazy one! Sorry I've not done a good job of keeping up! But I'm back and my last post is on Bullying.
I've seen countless people getting bullied in my life and something that most people do not know, is that I was bullied. All through School from Kindergarten to 12th grade, then for 5 years at college.
Anyone that knows me, knows that I'm pretty good at the snappy come backs.
At 8 years old my church told me I was two young to get saved, so I COULDN'T. So instead of getting upset I took my time to look at each person that had come up to "pray" with me and I said "You deny me a place in the family of God but would God deny me a place in Heaven" My father then smiled and said "well you heard her!" and that is the night I got saved.
In High School some kid told me to "Go to Hell" after he bumped into me in the hallway (yeah... I know...) Anyway so I looked at him and said "Actually I've been there. The Devil asked me to bring you back with me. Be ready in about *looks at watch* 15 minutes" The boy walked away shocked, never heard from him again.
In college one of my professors told me I was going to fail his class because I had a late assignment after my computer crashed. I told him "No I'm not, It's like my purse says. "I can do ALL THINGS through Christ who strengthens me. I WILL get an A in your class." I did get that A.
And AFTER college I've been told by countless churches they don't mind that I'm female but they wont hire me because I'm a SINGLE female. So I got really annoyed at once church and them basically that they could find me a husband.
Some of you may not think that some of that is bullying... but here is the definition of bullying: "Bullying-
Use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants."
People look at me and think I'd be easy to intimidate, I guess I just have that kind of face but when you've been bullied as long as I have you gain THICK skin. Also, God blessed me with a smart mouth! ;)
Those who are bullied please, stand up for yourself. Right a list of the most common insults from your bullies, then sit down and come up with snappy comebacks. Not hurtful ones, just the kind that will put your bully in their place. Also, be honest and tell your bully that they are hurting you.
In college I was tormented by a few guys who were bullying me, and I had the oppertunity in my Preaching class (that they were ALL in) to stand up and preach a sermon against bullying. Afterwards they came up and apologize. One of those bullies in now one of my best friends. I didn't attack him. I simply talked about what it's like to live with a difference, and then be bullied. He saw how wrong it was and apologized.
Some bullies just DONT care and that's why the snappy comments help. Those bullies are the ones that you don't want to know that they are hurting you.
How do you tell the difference? Try the snappy comments first, if your bully turns it into banter, instead of just getting annoyed that their comments aren't getting to you, be honest with them.
Be strong and courageous my friends. Bullying happens at ALL ages, and all parts of life. But if you find the right way to handle it you can stop it before it gets bad!
I'm not going to sugarcoat things and say that I haven't been hurt by the things that have been said to me. Thanks to my ACC I'm constantly cursed to relieve the moments I've been bullied, and the words they've said. I still struggle with the feelings these bullies have given me, even though I've forgiven them. BUT I've chosen to rise above it. When I start to think about something a bully has done I put on My Overcomer playlist, dance around my room and remind myself just how awesome I am, because I'm me.
You are awesome too! For no other reason than the fact that you are you! It can't get much better than that!
Stay strong my friends!
Now to the Intro to Appreciation April. April is going to be a bit like February. I'll be sending more Friendship Quotes to people this month, and posting about different things and people that I appreciate. So be on the lookout and expect to hear from me, just how much you are appreciated! :) |
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