I am Woman, Hear Me Roar

Well, it's my turn to roar... but I'm thinking maybe some women should keep it too a dull whisper.

I know! I'm HORRIBLE. How dare I speak against my own gender that way!

My own gender has taken feminism to a new, ridiculous level and while they think it is a higher one it is low. A VERY low one. And it instead of making voices be heard that have positive things to say all that's going on is hate hate hate. And I'm tired of it.

Am I a feminist? By the definition as is, YES! By the definition it has become absolutely NOT!

Feminism- the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.

Do I believe women should have won the right to vote years ago? YES! I would have fought right along side them for that.

Should women sit at home and be barefoot and pregnant? They have that choice but for myself that's never how I've seen my life and most of my friends aren't like that either.

However I do not believe in abortion, because that choice effects everyone in a persons circle, their families, them, and that baby living inside them.

Do I condemn those that believe differently. No. We agree to disagree and also agree to never discuss again and guess what we're still great friends or still get along. Who knows what goes on behind closed doors. They may not like me because we disagree but I'm not a person who lets that get in the way of a friendship and I hope they are like that as well.

Many years ago my mother and father raised a strong minded girl who said "I will NEVER give up."

I lost my father when I was 15. He died of cancer and for a time I gave up. I stopped singing, I figured there was no point to doing much of anything if all we did was love people and die. But as I got older I decided to live my life and go back to who I was as a child.

I heard things like "you'll never graduate college."
"you'll never make anything of yourself."
"you'll never get married."

At the age of 26 some people who I once thought I was close to called me an OLD MAID!

But here I am, age 31. I graduated college in 2010. Do I have a career? No. Have I tried? Yes! However, I have made something of myself. 
How? 

Well this mouth on my face that people said would get me into trouble of course! 
Why? 
I stand up for people. People with ACC and Autism, Cancer, Diabetes and other things. Beyond that, I've written a book. I also take a stand and spread word about thyroid disease and celiac because they are REAL PROBLEMS and people NEED to learn about them! 

In 2015 I wrote my first book. I'm working on my second one currently and would like to get it out this year. 

Last year, 2016 not only did I get engaged but I married that guy and he's my best friend. 

They were WRONG! They were ALL WRONG! 

...and I? Well I never gave up and I never will. 

One day I hope I will have a career but you know what I have a disorder that cripples me in ways most people don't have to deal with so either way, I will be okay because I now have the best job in the world. I am a wife to one and step-mom to 3 of the greatest people on this planet. So my job? I clean house, I help build things whether it be bunk beds or a place of love for the kids and my husband. It is because of all that I've done that this house is a home and there is so much happiness inside. THATS my job, to help my husband, and the mother of my step-kids, and their step dad to raise these kids well! We're a team and I couldn't be more happy. 

My job doesn't end at a certain time. When we have the kids, I'm up late because I read to them and once they finally go to sleep, during certain times a year I'm working with an elf or a leprechaun to make their mornings a little more fun. I make sure the dishes are washed and to keep my husband happy he cooks because that's what he loves to do. 

I help take out the trash, I do our laundry. I love my life. Is it exhausting? Sure. Am I going to stop because a group of women tell me that's not good enough anymore? No. None of this day without a woman stuff. If you are feeling under appreciated maybe it's time you talk to your family and your professional. I'm brave enough that I remind my family to appreciate me. And you know what? They do anyway they just don't know how to show it sometimes until I say something. I'm not begging for attention but it is in my experience that sometimes a person needs reminding to help them see the bigger picture. Do I stop doing what I do? No! I do more of it, That's how I show my love. 

 As a woman who is not a mother, but a step mom, I deal with a whole new evil. People who constantly remind me "you aren't a real mom. You are JUST a step mother." Well you know what, this JUST A STEP-MOM works JUST AS HARD as a real mom to make sure her kiddos are happy. And I am blessed to be on a team with a great mother who is an example for me. She is also someone I can call friend. She has given me her blessing in her childrens lives, as has my husband in the lives of those same kids. THATS all that matters. So I will keep on being the woman I am.

But the main point of this is to encourage others. Don't get swept up in this new feminism trap. That's what it is. It's a new trap, a new way to get a riled up and fighting what I call "not the enemy."

There is an old show, Dinosaurs.. and the baby calls daddy dino "not the mama!" So maybe we should look at one another, look at the men in this country that "seek to oppress us..." Do they REALLY? And is there really ENOUGH of them to make this matter, or are we, in our roaring ways oppressing ourselves?  Because to me these men are "not the enemy!" WE'RE THE MAMAS! The WOMEN and we ARE strong but fighting against each other and men who are not actually our oppressors... well it's a fight that should simmer. Our roars need to turn to whispers and we need to go back to living our lives being the strong women we are and actually just telling our REAL oppressors to "kiss this and no we don't mean on our rosy red lips...and by the way it's a figure of speech so if you actually try there are laws against that and I'm not afraid to press charges" But ONLY the real oppressors. They are out there but there number is a whole lot smaller than we are giving them credit for.

And you know what, I wasn't a big fan of Trump but I did vote for him. I can tell you right now, he's not the problem. He's said some nasty things but so have many MANY women. And no, I don't think he started it ALL. Women roar, and we're roared ourselves into a corner. It's time to stand up and get out!